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Health care has more than its share of fraud.

Throughout my 30-year-plus health care career, I often remarked we could cover everyone in the U.S. for what we paid out in fraud.

My good friend, Jan Shapard, knows that better than I do. She has spent her career battling health care fraud.

As you’ll read in Jan’s story, we met while I was still in the corporate side of the industry. We have remained friends ever since.

I was thrilled when by the luck of the draw, Jan was my first recipient for the gift certificate to my Old Lady Walking store.

Jan selected the Old Lady Walking playing cards as shown here.

I asked Jan if she would be willing to share her story on how cancer has affected her life. She graciously accepted.

Please welcome my good friend, Jan.

My Health Care Buddy’s Story

Cancer’s New Meaning

By Jan Shapard

Cathy and I were colleagues and friends at a consulting firm in Los Angeles in the late 90’s. Cathy left for San Diego and eventually I left for Nashville.

Cathy’s devotion to the 60-mile walk always inspired me, but it took on new meaning in the last few years.

I lost my brother to bile duct cancer and Cathy walked in memory of him. Then, the unbelievable happened. My 41-year old son was diagnosed with colon cancer. More walking. He is fine now, 2 years out.

My gratitude for Cathy’s dedication to cancer research was recently rewarded when I won a prize from her Old Lady Walking items!

I play bridge with friends I have known and shared Life with for over 30 years. (I flew back from California every year for our annual Bridge Retreat.)

I chose Old Lady Walking playing cards. Now I have Cathy walking across my bridge table! It is a wonderful reminder of her story, our friendship and the battle we still have to wage to defeat Cancer.

Thanks for everything, Cathy.

Thank you, Jan, for sharing your story and most of all your friendship.

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Walk on!

Penny holds a special place in my heart.

My first Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Walk (as it was known in those days) was one I thought I’d do alone.

That was in 2003.

A friend who was supposed to walk the 60 miles with me had broken her ankle. I started Day 1 on my own. On Day 2, it was Penny who asked me to join her and two friends so I wouldn’t walk alone.

Thus, began a journey of the heart.

Cosmic Connections

When I reached out to my teammates to share their story for this blog, it should have come as no surprise that Penny was the first to volunteer.

As Penny was my introduction to our future team, it seems appropriate that Penny kicks off our team’s stories.

From the start, Penny and I seemed destined to connect.

• I walked behind her that day in 2003
• Penny was telling a story about her sister-in-law
• Turns out I worked with Penny’s sister-in-law for 11 years

Cosmic connection #1.

As we parted on Day 3, I had Penny write her contact information on the back of one of my business cards.

When the 2004 3-Day rolled around, I was puzzled why my not-yet official team was missing.

• They walked the Avon 3-Day before Susan G. Komen took over the event
• We left 2003 with a promise to connect again in 2004
• One problem – I misplaced Penny’s contact information

After the 2004 3-Day, I received an email from a client.

• The business card I gave the client had something on the back
• My client had found Penny’s missing contact information

Cosmic connection #2.

I sent Penny a Christmas card. She wrote back and shared why they missed the 2004 3-Day.

Penny had been diagnosed with breast cancer.

Penny’s Story

Hearing Penny’s story reminded me that as much as you think you know someone, there is always some new discovery.

I always thought Penny’s participation in the 3-Day Walks was because Suzanne, her childhood friend and our teammate, was a breast cancer survivor.

Penny’s reason started two years before Suzanne’s diagnosis.

Cathy: What motivated you to do your first walk?

Penny: My good friend, Bonnie told me about her friend, Linda, who had breast cancer, and she was 36. Bonnie and I would walk every day. I met Linda because we would stop and visit Linda who was too ill to walk.

Penny shared that Linda had an 18-month-old baby and a seven-year-old. Linda was already a Stage Four. It was a time when treatment included bone marrow transplant as the big hope for breast cancer.

Penny: I watched that poor girl go through everything and it was a nightmare. Linda did everything she could. She was Miss Fitness. We stopped pretty much daily and it got progressively worse. It had spread to her bones and later to her brain.

One Saturday Bonnie asked Penny to check on Linda. She felt she was not doing well. Penny found Linda on the floor, unable to get up. Penny ran to get Mike, the next-door neighbor, to help lift Linda.

Linda was rushed to the hospital. Three days later, Linda died. She was 39.

Penny: Here’s the irony in all this. Mike, the wonderful next-door neighbor, we became close as I continued my walks; he got colon cancer. He was 50…treatment, treatment…and died at 52.

Then Suzanne was diagnosed right about the time that Mike was. I was devastated. The only one I knew with breast cancer was Linda, a young woman who died and left two small children. It was tragic.

It was a frightening time. To see what I saw, it was thought to be a death sentence.

Cathy: And later came your diagnosis. Can you share some of your story?

Penny: You know when things keep appearing in your life, you better start listening. It was your connection to me, and suddenly, this cancer connection.

In July, I visited my doctor about a lump I found. He told me he was not concerned. We could watch it or “you can just have it out”. This is an important part of my story.

It was my 25th wedding anniversary and we had a planned trip to Europe. My doctor assured me he was not stressed and said when you get back, set up an appointment with a surgeon and just get it out. But do not worry, it’s not cancer.

Because of Suzanne’s experience, Penny was not inclined to just “watch it”. She decided as soon as they got back from Europe, she was going to have it taken care of.

Penny: My surgery was in September of that year. Even after they removed the tumor, they told Pete (Penny’s husband), as he sat in the waiting room, that it was not cancer.

That’s the lesson I tell people. They are probably sick of hearing me say it.

When in doubt, listen to yourself.

It wasn’t until the following week, my doctor called me and said it’s cancer. And I said, What? I’m fine. He said, “No, you are not fine. You need chemo. You need radiation. You need to get in and see an oncologist.”

It Ain’t Cancer

Cathy: I was going to ask you what lessons you’ve learned from your experience.

What better way to end my interview with Penny than with her sharing her life lessons.

You can listen in below.

Is it any wonder why I love Penny?

Walk on!

Transcript of audio

Well, that’s one. To listen to yourself.

I think if you don’t feel comfortable, no matter what any medical person is telling you, get it out.

And the other big lesson for me was − it ain’t cancer.

And we repeat it all the time. In the office, at work, even Pete when things happen around here.

It’s like, you know what? It’s not cancer.

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Would you like to share your story? Use my Contact Cathy form and we’ll chat.

The Susan G. Komen organization began with a promise. A promise made by a sister to her sister who was dying of breast cancer.

Cancer destroys the body but cannot reach the soul. After over a decade of participation in the 3-Day Walk for the Cure, I still marvel at the strength and the commitment of all who take part in the event.

Recently, I attended a symposium for corporate wellness programs.

The keynote speaker for the opening session was Alex Sheen, Founder of the social movement and nonprofit organization, because I said I would. His presentation spoke to my heart.

Here was another story of a life cut short by cancer and a loved one determined to keep a promise. What unfolded is nothing short of astounding. I’ll let Alex share his story.

A Promise Made. A Promise Kept.

Alex is truly an inspiration. He demonstrates the power of commitment and how a single person can make a difference.

Share Your Story

Would you like to share your story? Use my Contact Cathy form and we’ll chat.

Walk on.